A letter from my mother to my father

My dearest Wong,

I am proud to be your wife.

When we were in dating, you were a wonderful boyfriend. You always think for me first. You always provided me the best. Although, you haven't sent me a flower but your love is over than everything. I remembered I was a naive girl in the past but you taught me how to be mature in our relationship.

After we got married, you were a wonderful husband and son-in-law. You gave all your things to me. You treated my family as yours. When they were in trouble, you gave your hand without saying more than one word. I couldn't cook well but you still loved me. Do you remember LB? At that moment, we were lost. I asked you not to go ahead on that business because I had no confidence it would be succeed. You promised and gave it up.

After the birth of Him Yau, you were a wonderful husband, daddy and son-in-law. Sometimes, I spent much time and effort on HimYau and forgot your needs, but you still loved me very much. You supported all my decisions (it may be wrong) that I made on HimYau even though it is time and money spending. You respected me so much. You loved Him Yau very much too. Sometimes, he was naughty; you still talked with him gently. You read storybooks and bible with him even you are tired. You brought him everywhere alone when you were on leave. I had a dream! I wanted to travel with my parents. You made it true even though it was a big and hard project; esp. with my mother sitting on wheelchair and HimYau was only 1.5 year old. I knew I was a willful girl. If the thing I want to do, I must do it. I always had many brainstorm but you would match up with me and made it real.

During the second time of abortion, you were a wonderful husband, daddy and son-in-law. I fainted in toilet. You were scared. You were afraid to lose me. You shouted. You hold my hand, called my name and prayed. When I heard you call me loudly, I woke up. I saw you’re scary. I saw your true love. Forgave me that my lack of love in the past. Our relationship was tighter in all these experience.

I am pregnant now. You are not just wonderful but over 101 marks, husband, daddy and son-in-law.

To be a husband, you take care me considerately. You checked my wallet if there are enough money. If not, you put money without advising me. You put my shower towel to the dirty laundry timely. When I vomit, you fry ginger rice for me. You planned all dishes every night. You accompany with Him Yau doing his homework and reading every night.

To be a daddy, you plan the activities for Him Yau with my absence. You go to the beach and concert with him. If Him Yau loves one story and he ask you to read again and again. You will not reject him and read and read even you are very extracted. Every night, you play toy and brush teeth with him and make milk for him without any help from me.

To be a son-of-law, you are willing to live with my mother due to her poor physical situation. After she discharged from hospital, she can’t move well; she always Boo boo and she need to go back to hospital every Tue and Friday 7:00am. You hold her; you bring her to toilet and ask our maid to change her diaper; and accompany her to hospital in the early morning twice a week.

Honey, I know you are very very extracted. I know you love me so much. You always ask me “ I love you, do you know?” I only nodded but I seldom say I love you.

Honey, I really know you love me. I love you so much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You give me a wonderful life, a warm family and I don’t know what I should do to response your love. I can only say from my heart “ Thank you” and I love you forever.

Your love.
3 May 2010